Thursday, October 14, 2010

Wave of Light 2010

I have a lot to share tonight on the eve of OCT 15th.

First a reminder that tomorrow is the Wave of Light

please take that hour to remember my daughter or another child you know that a family has lost.

"Approximately 25,000 stillbirths are reported every year and represents 60% of all perinatal mortality in the US." ( If these babies were dying after birth it would be an epidemic. Help us raise awareness light a candle for one hour and remember these precious children.

Also My favortire parenting website published a new article

Honoring a baby who dies in pregnancy or infancy
by Julie Beer
Last updated: October 2010

Julie did a great job sharing how our family and others honor their babies.

Friday, August 27, 2010

3 years and still missing you.

This year snuck up on me, well not really, since i knew the date was on the horizon but as our daily life gets more hectic and summer came to an end getting motivated to plan something was not what we wanted. this year we got Lucy some balloons, and a green and pink bear that "sings your are my sunshine" and sways. the bear has pink wings and cheeks that glow. we spent some quite time reflecting on our three years with out this little girl in our home.

the things i miss out number the stars in the sky, but i know that she is always near me when i need to know she is safe.

I love you little girl.

Wednesday, March 24, 2010

Can you spare a few minutes for stillbirth?

Dear friends,

I‘m asking for some help with this issue that it is very important to me and my family.

On Aug 27, 2008 our daughter Olive Lucy Kawecki was stillborn. What a sad sentence I have written a 100s of times since that day.

I am writing to all women today because I feel that you more than anyone can understand my plea, this is a maternal child health issue and worth your time. I love my daughter very much I miss her more than words could ever convey and I am determined to make a difference in her memory. Stillbirth is as profound a loss as that of any other known to man. Some might argue the most profound.

if you can find time today or sometime in the next few days to click the links in this post and show your support for bereaved families like ours I would greatly appreciate it.

State Legislation Action Info

I’m asking you to support S.765a (Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth bill) by reaching out to your representatives today.

The Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth Bill (S.765a / A.4375) was drafted by Assemblyman Richard Gottfried, a dedicated supporter of women's rights and adopted by bill sponsor Senator William Larkin. It would give bereaved parents the option of requesting a Certificate of Birth Resulting in Stillbirth to acknowledge the birth process they have endured when a stillbirth, an unintended fetal demise occurs after 20 weeks' gestation.

From the NY Still Parents Action alert:

Just a few minutes of your time can help the passage of the NY Certificate of Birth resulting in Stillbirth bill.

Join us in telling the NY Senate Health committee to place S.765a [CBRS] on the health committee's agenda and vote on it.

The CBRS would give bereaved parents the option of requesting a Certificate of Birth resulting in Stillbirth to acknowledge the birth process when a stillbirth, an unintended fetal demise occurs after 20 weeks gestation.

Each year there are nearly 1,700 stillbirths in New York State. 25,000 in the United States.

By clicking on all (3) of the following links, your support of the NY CBRS will be sent to the Senate Health committee members.

Petition - Senate Health Chair, Thomas Duane:

Email - Senate Health Chair:

Email - Senate Health Committee members:

Federal Legislation action info
If you have a few more minutes there is also federal legislation that need support to Fund Research for Stillbirth, SIDS, and SUID (sudden unexplained death in children)

From the first candle action alert:

Just a few minutes of your time can help propel a movement that has the potential to save thousands of babies’ lives for future generations to come.

Please contact your Congressional leaders in the House and Senate today!

By clicking on the following link provided by the C.J. Foundation for SIDS, it will be easy to type in your zip code and automatically direct your letter to the appropriate congressional offices. You may personalize the letter or send the template as is.

First Candle & C. J. Foundation for SIDS are joining to seek co-sponsors for S.1445 and H.R. 3212 - The Stillbirth and SUID Prevention, Education and Awareness Act.This act is sponsored by D-NJ Senator Frank Lautenberg and Congressman Frank Pallone, Jr., and is quite simply the single most promising piece of legislation crafted in the past decade to promote infant survival and address the sudden unexpected deaths of babies and young children to SIDS, SUID, SUDC and Stillbirth.

the goal is to have a minimum of 83 co-sponsors by Mothers’ Day - equivalent to the number of babies who are stillborn plus the number of babies who die of sudden unexpected infant or child death everyday here in the United States.

Please do it in honor of the babies and children whom you love in your life.

On behalf of my beautiful daughter, Olive Lucy-- who will never have a child of her own. I ask you to spread the word and ask others to help.

Thank you for the very bottom of my heart.